By Jade Seashell (contributor), author of “A Seductress’ Confession: How to leverage beauty and savor tantalizing pleasure”
You already know that uploading a good photo on your dating profile is of vital importance. Apart from that, many online dating sites require you to write a dating profile headline. Yes, your dating profile headline is one of the most important elements of your dating profile, because without a good headline, your profile probably wouldn’t get people’s attention. The more people notice your dating profile, the more likely you’ll find a perfect match.
- Your dating profile headline has to be different.
On every dating website, you can see numerous boring dating profile headlines in the search results. Yes, you search according to the right post code and age. Once you’ve seen their photos, the next item you look at is their dating profile headlines. Therefore, the importance of dating profile headlines shouldn’t be ignored. Here is how to make your headline different from others:
- Highlight your personality.
e.g. “An adventurous gentleman” (this headline shows a unique pairing in your personality – you are gentle and adventurous at the same time, which is quite attractive).
- Highlight your special interest.
e.g. “A lady and a traveler” (this headline shows your special interest – travel, so men who likes travelling will be interested in you).
- Show your wit.
e.g. “Happy to lie about how we met” (this headline showcases your wit and humor).
- Emphasize your unique selling point.
e.g. “A scholar and a thinker” (this headline displays your intelligence which is probably your unique selling point).
Your dating profile headline is one of the most important elements of your dating profile, because without a good headline, your profile probably wouldn’t get people’s attention.
- What to avoid in your dating profile headlines:
- Low energy.
e.g. “Hi” (This shows you couldn’t be bothered.)
e.g. “Having trust issues.” (This indicates you expect problems before they even arise.)
- Desperation or wanting to be rescued.
e.g. “In this confusing world, I’m looking for a long-term serious relationship that lasts for a long time. Will you be the one for me?” (This indicates you are needy, although this sentence alone isn’t wrong. I respect people who look for serious long-term relationships, but if you can’t start with having fun and being relaxed, it’s actually harder to find the right person who can start a meaningful and sustainable relationship with you.)
- Very long sentences.
e.g. “I am a healthy, wealthy and wise gentleman who loves travelling, reading, music, sports, cooking, photography and movies.” (No one is going to pay attention to a long headline because it has lost its focus.)
- Spelling errors and grammar mistakes.
e.g. “Enjoying lifes’ beauty.”
“Looking for the love of my live.”
- Repeating obvious information.
e.g. “A musician from New York.” (People can see your profession and your location clearly in your profile already.)
- How to choose the right photo for your dating profile:
- Advice for women (okay, ladies first) –
Principle I: Wear red in your profile picture.
According to a recent study, men are more attracted to women who wear red clothes. Scientists have found that red is the only color that makes people’s hearts beat faster. Therefore, when a man sees a woman wearing red, he is more likely to fall in love with her.
Principle II: If you have a good figure, display your figure in the photo.
If you wear a tight dress in the photo, no matter your Mr. Right is into boobs, bottom or legs, your photo will attract his attention.
Principle III: If your face looks better than your figure, display your face clearly.
Don’t wear heavy makeup which puts men off. Wear some makeup that enhances your natural beauty.
Principle IV: Don’t use a photo that looks too different from the real you.
If you use a photo that looks very different from who you are, then your date would be surprised by your real looks when you actually see him in person. Therefore, you would be well-advised to avoid using a photo that was taken ten years ago or was modified by Photoshop.
- Advice for men –
Principle I: Don’t show off your money in the profile photo.
If you are rich, don’t show off your wealth in your profile photo, because when your photo displays your fancy car, you’ll automatically attract gold-diggers quickly. That also implies that you are “new money” – you are worried that others don’t know you are rich. If you want to let ladies know that you are wealthy, your profession will tell them. For instance, when ladies see your profession is decent, they will know you are doing well.
Principle II: Do use a photo that was taken outdoors.
From a recent survey, experts claim that men’s dating profiles with photos taken outdoors attract more women’s attention. Indeed, a photo taken outdoors indicates your upbeat spirit as it shows that you enjoy having fun, you like nature, and you are probably athletic and healthy.
In contrast, a photo taken in a dark room may suggest that you have secrets to hide – at least in women’s subconscious – this is psychology.
Principle III: Women are also visual, so your profile photo is more important than you think.
Don’t assume that women are looking for money and men are looking for sex. The reality is not that simple. I know many women who are financially successful and are not looking for money from men. In fact, if you are dating a financially successful woman, you must have a lot to offer. Many women are visual as well, so they want to meet good-looking men with great personality.
Now you have understood how to write a powerful dating profile headline and how to choose the right photo for your online dating profile. So it’s time to take real action and implement what you have learned today.