Dating Japanese Women: Pros and Cons

a gorgeous Japanese girl

By Jade Seashell (contributor), author of “A Seductress’ Confession”

Japan, the most developed country in Asia, has many incredibly cute girls who actually look like and behave like those pretty Japanese girls that you see on TV and in movies.  In this article, both pros and cons regarding dating Japanese women will be discussed, so love doesn’t have to be blind.

Japanese woman wearing black dress


  • Japanese girls are the cutest in the whole world. I don’t think you can find girls in other countries that are as cute as Japanese girls – they are just super cute in every detail – the clothes they wear, the makeup they use, the way they walk, the way they talk…. Japan is a country which focuses on delicate beauty in detail – this is not common in any other country in the world.  Just go to a store which sells Japanese gifts or things made in Japan, you’ll appreciate the beauty in every detail of every item.  Similarly, if you meet a pretty Japanese girl, you will also enjoy the subtlety and the sophistication of her beauty.
  • Japanese brides are the most caring and nurturing wives. I remember when I was in high school, a 27-year-old male teacher told me that his goal is to live in the countryside of England and marry a Japanese wife.  So many years later, I’m not sure whether he has actually done that, but I’ve done some research about Japanese wives.  Indeed, they are well-known for their caring and nurturing characteristics – they cook for men, wash and fold their men’s clothes.  Yes, they really look after their men very well.  If you marry a Japanese woman, she will also take care of children well, so you can trust her and relax, and you’ll be able to focus on your career as well.
  • Japanese ladies are very accommodating. While Western women have lots of opinions, Japanese women are very accommodating – they accommodate what you like, e.g. if you want to watch a certain film, she will be happy to see the film with you, although she is not interested in it.  Likewise, if you like a certain sex position, she will accommodate that as well.  No wonder Japan has the world’s most well-known pornography.
  • Japanese ladies choose you not because you are from a wealthy Western country. You know Asia isn’t a wealthy place, but Japan is a very wealthy country.  Therefore, if a Japanese girl wants to date a western man, it’s not because she wants to have a better life financially.  Instead, it’s actually because she is curious about (and interested in) western culture.  So if you are into Asian women, dating Japanese girls is a wise option because she is more likely to be genuinely interested in who you really are rather than your wallet.
  • Japanese women are very open-minded. Although it is said that a lot of Japanese girls prefer Japanese men, I have seen many Japanese women marry men from other races, e.g. Americans, Australians, Indians, etc.  Also, Japan is a country characterised by a variety of lifestyles.  By that I mean many people in Japan are okay with different ways of life: some Japanese work incredibly hard; some Japanese people spend lots of free time in cafes and restaurants.  In general, Japanese men work much harder than women, as women are supposed to be housewives traditionally.  Therefore, you’ll be able to spend much leisure time with your Japanese girlfriend, doing relaxing activities together.

Japan has many incredibly cute girls who actually look like and behave like those pretty Japanese girls that you see on TV and in movies.

Japanese young girl  with a black bow in her hair


  • Japanese women probably have low libidos. I’m not going to make this sound like a generalisation, but I’ve interviewed many Western men who have dated Japanese ladies, and all of them told me that their Japanese girlfriends were not really interested in sex.  Some of them even told me that a large number of Japanese women associate sex with pain, probably because they have seen too much torture Japanese adult movies.  If you have a high sex drive, maybe you shouldn’t date Japanese women.  But if your libido is also low, make sure you marry a Japanese wife (and there is nothing wrong with that, as long as you are happy with it)!  It is said that in Japan, at least 60% of marriages are sexless.  Also, according to a report from Asia, Japanese couples have the least amount of sex in the whole world.  For some Japanese women, after giving birth to kids, she doesn’t need to have sex anymore, so the whole point of having sex is to reproduce her offspring.  In contrast, western women probably think children are only the by-product (just one result) of a marriage.
  • If you live in Japan, you will meet Japanese girls in Western pubs, but those girls are slightly crazy. Japanese ladies who go to western nightclubs are looking for western men to hook up with, because they are curious about western men.  Some of them heard that Western men are better in bed, so they want to try that.  However, though you may meet a large number of Japanese girls who are into you in those bars, the quality of those women is questionable, because high quality Japanese women don’t really go to pubs frequently – they have better things to do.  Therefore, if you are looking for a healthy long-term relationship or marriage with a Japanese beauty, going to a western pub in Japan isn’t a wise move.
  • Some Japanese women are passive aggressive. Because conflicts are always avoided in Japan, women in Japan tend to be nice to you, even though they secretly think you are an idiot.  So if you approach a Japanese girl who smiles at you, please don’t judge a book by its cover.  You don’t really know whether she is interested or not at all.  Besides, if you are already dating a Japanese girl, it’s very common for her to manipulate you by being passive aggressive – well, based on western standards, that’s manipulation, but it’s just commonplace in Japan, because they want to avoid conflicts yet they just don’t make you feel comfortable.
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  • hahahaha, what garbage. Yellow fever’s really affecting your mind. “Japanese women are very open-minded.” Whaaaaaat?!?!?! Did you spend your whole life in a North Korean prison camp?!

    Japanese “girls” (because they never actually grow up) are the most annoying, passive-aggressive nutjobs, shallow, STUPID, VAPID, crazy as in “mentally unstable and should be in a mental hospital” people you will ever meet.

    “Low libido”??? That’s what you call completely cutting out sex as soon as they have a baby???

    Man, no wonder so many gaijin end up here with all these crazy divorce stories. They actually believe this crap.

  • I am okay, if she has one or two kids due to Poor Libido, even if they are Daughters.
    “Are Daughters more Precious than having many Sons?”, I am quoting from Samuel.

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