What You Need to Know About Dating Indonesian Women

By Jade Seashell (contributor), author of “A Seductress’ Confession: How to leverage beauty and savour tantalizing pleasure”

Many people associate Indonesian people with a traditional and religious image, but in fact, Indonesian people are more interesting than you think.  Indonesian ladies are fun-loving and sexy women.

• Indonesian women are the perfect combination of being traditional and being wild. Most Indonesian girls are wifely and motherly; at the same time, they also enjoy passionate and wild sex!  This is called “a unique pairing”, i.e. two completely different qualities can be found in one person.  How exciting is that?!  So if you have an Indonesian girlfriend, you’ll never be bored.

• Indonesian girls speak good English. I have never met an Indonesian woman who can’t speak English, so I would say the majority of Indonesian ladies can speak fairly good English.  That’s their advantage – they can communicate with Western men easily.  Good communication skills lead to less cultural barrier!

• Indonesian women are religious. Most Indonesian ladies are religious, as Indonesia is actually the biggest Muslim country in the world.  So you should expect to meet Indonesian girls who are part of that faith.  Although not every Indonesian woman is that religious, they still respect their parents’ opinions in a traditional way, which means her parents’ approval is very important.  Therefore, you probably need to make sure her parents like you as well, if you want to have a long-term relationship with an Indonesian girl.

• Women in Indonesia expect you to pay for everything. If you are dating an Indonesian lady, chances are you are expected to pay for everything, because she is not going to go Dutch with you – that’s just not a part of her culture.  So if you are okay with that, then you can date Indonesian ladies; otherwise, you should keep dating Western women.

• Women from Indonesia want to date manly men who are able to lead. In Western countries such as the United States and Australia, many women may play power games with you and want to have more power in the relationship.  Yet in Indonesia, women generally expect men to lead.  There is a saying which goes like this, “As a man, you either lead, or you’ll be misled.”  This is believed by many Easterners, including Indonesian people.  So your Indonesian girlfriend expects you to lead and give her guidance.  You should be able to make decisions and be the manly man.

• Indonesian girls like Western men. Unlike other Southeast Asian countries, there aren’t too many Westerners in Indonesia.  As a result, if you are a Western visitor in Indonesia, girls will be very interested in you.  I’m not trying to be racist here, but it is a fact that Indonesian ladies are really interested in white men, as evidenced by my male friends’ experiences in Indonesia – they usually get laid within one week there.

Many people associate Indonesian people with a traditional and religious image, but in fact, Indonesian people are more interesting than you think.  Indonesian ladies are fun-loving and sexy women.

• Indonesian ladies pay a lot of attention to their looks. In Indonesia, you can see salons and spas everywhere & women always wear fashionable clothes and full makeup.  You’ll be amazed by their pretty nails and femininity in general.  This is because in this country, a person’s appearance is considered to be something important.  Consequently, the beauty industry is thriving in Indonesia.

• Indonesian women are easy-going and fun. You hardly ever hear an Indonesian woman complaining about anything, because Indonesian ladies tend to get on with it quickly.  Indonesian girls love going to parties and catching up with friends.  They are outgoing and gregarious in general.  That also means they have good social skills and can meet a lot of people through their social groups.  Therefore, one Indonesian girl can become your gateway to other Indonesian girls – it’s great, isn’t it?

• Your Indonesian girlfriend may want to have a look at your mobile phone. Checking their boyfriends’ mobile phones is a common practice among Indonesian girls.  So if you have something to hide, please don’t leave your mobile phone unattended, because your Indonesian girlfriend will have a look at your phone!  That probably means they don’t easily trust you.  Or maybe it’s because they think it is okay to do it!  But I doubt if it’s okay for you to look at her phone.

• Don’t give your Indonesian girlfriend cash. Like I mentioned earlier, your Indonesian girlfriend will expect you to pay for stuff.  But that doesn’t mean you should give her cash!  If you are in a better financial position whereas she is not, a better solution is: you pay for goods and services directly, but you don’t give her any cash!  This is because if you give her cash, things can go out of control in the long term.

• It’s common for an older Western man to date a much younger Indonesian girl. In Indonesia, women associate older men with more security and better ability to provide and protect.  Therefore, it’s okay to date much younger Indonesian ladies if you are an older Western man!  The age gap isn’t a big deal in Indonesia.  But you need to remember that younger women generally want to have more freedom in order to have fun, so you should give her that freedom.  If you don’t, she will have the freedom behind your back anyway!

• Socialise with the Indo-Chinese community if you want to date Indo-Chinese girls. Indonesian Chinese girls are the hardest to get in Indonesia.  Probably you already know that Chinese people living in Indonesia are incredibly rich.  As a result, if you are interested in dating Indonesian Chinese women, you should meet their social group first and be accepted by them.  Then you’ll have the opportunity to date Indonesian Chinese girls.  But you need to remember that Indonesian Chinese women are looking for men who can give them a better status, so you can’t be too poor.

• Many pretty Indonesian girls are high maintenance. Although I said Indonesian girls are generally easy-going, I also need to point out that a lot of good-looking Indonesian girls are actually high maintenance, because they ask for allowance from their boyfriends (or sugar daddies).  These girls never date Western men because they know Western men won’t provide those benefits.