Cal Newport introduced the concept of deliberate practice in his book. While most people live a life by default, you can live your life by design if you know how to implement deliberate practice in your life, especially in your love life. Deliberate practice means instead of living your life on autopilot, you practise certain skills on purpose consistently and date hot women.
Use deliberate practice to upgrade your love life.
- Talk to at least 3 new women per day. It’s easy to say “I will talk to more women from now on” – that statement doesn’t do anything because it’s too vague to be seen as a real plan. An effective plan has to be very specific, e.g. “I will talk to at least 3 new women per day.” Can you see the difference now? A general plan doesn’t make any difference, but a specific plan changes what you will do tomorrow. Therefore, you should have a specific plan like this and implement it immediately. Actually, this new plan alone will transform your love life if you stick to it every single day. When you are on the bus tomorrow morning, initiate a conversation with the stunning girl sitting next to you. When you see a hot woman in the lift of your office building, pay her a compliment. Also, I’ll give you a very powerful idea: When you stand in the queue at Starbucks during lunchtime tomorrow and there is a sexy woman standing behind you, offer to pay for her coffee. Just say this to the waiter/waitress, “I’ll pay for mine and hers” (make sure the attractive woman behind you can hear it). Now this gorgeous girl will absolutely, positively begin to talk to you first. She will probably say this with a big smile, “Why do you do that?” You can say, “I decide to do something nice to people once in a while.” Then she will surely continue the conversation. Now your job is to keep her engaged and interested, so you can say, “I read a blog article last month. It’s about how to make the world a better place. This idea was in that article and I think this is the best idea in the world, so I want to try it.” Now she will find you extremely interesting. If she shows interest in you, you must ask for her phone number. Honestly, if you do this once a week, you will certainly have 52 hot women’s phone numbers on your phone by the end of the year. That means your dating life will be taken care of simply because of this strategy. You can thank us later.
- Learn at least 3 new words per day and use them in conversations deliberately. This sounds a bit odd here, right? But let me explain. We all know that conversation skills are paramount in dating and attraction. But do you know that knowing which witty lines to say is not enough? To be honest, you also need to sound more cultured and sophisticated at the same time. Indeed, being funny isn’t sufficient these days because there are too many funny guys out there in this day and age. That’s why I recommend learning at least 3 new words per day. The new words that you learn can be words or phrases. For instance, next time when you talk to a sexy girl, you can say “I read a blog article on higher-order thinking skills last month. It’s about…” Now she will ask you, “What do you mean by higher-order thinking skills?” Then you can explain what this phrase means to her. Remember: hot women want men to teach them things. That’s why when you are able to use some high-level vocabulary while talking to a stunning lady, she will be impressed because you sound very well-educated and interesting – she can always learn something from you. For hot women, that’s a gain, not a loss. In this way, they will associate dating you with gaining something new. Hence, this deliberate practice will help you with your love life.
- Say yes to everything. Nowadays many people are addicted to their freaking phones, which is so sad. When you are wasting your precious time on social media and thinking you might get laid on Instagram or Facebook, you are making a big mistake. Of course, social media can be helpful when it comes to dating and relationships. But I’m talking about wasting time on social media – that’s a bad habit which you must avoid. If you spend too much time on social media, you will probably look like a loser with nothing going on in real life. Thus, you should say yes to social events. Even if a sunset drinks get-together on your co-worker’s balcony at 5:30pm on Wednesday is a good event. One of our clients did that last week and this is what happened: Because he lives in the city centre and his apartment doesn’t have a car park (he doesn’t have a car), he went to his co-worker’s house for the sunset drinks’ get-together by taxi and it cost him over $80 as that co-worker’s place is far away from the city. In most people’s point of view, what he did doesn’t make sense because who would pay a taxi driver nearly $90 just for a 1.5-hour get-together with some co-workers? Well, the truth is co-workers are more valuable than your friends in various ways. First of all, your friends can’t really bring you hot women or job opportunities because if they can, they must have done it already. In other words, your friends and you share the same resources in terms of socioeconomic background as well as other backgrounds. By contrast, your co-workers consist of people who probably do better than you because chances are some of these people are your managers and supervisors. That means they have access to better resources that can benefit you. That is to say, ‘weak links’ in social dynamics are more valuable because they have the potential to introduce hot women and career opportunities to you. As a matter of fact, that guy who went to his co-worker’s house for drinks last week met a very beautiful lady – she is the co-worker’s cousin. Now they have been on two dates so far.