It is not easy to find a perfect match. Most time in our lives, finding that special person makes a relationship all worth the trouble. And until you do find that person, you probably may break some hearts. It happens to all of us at some point in our relationship. Sometimes we get broken up with, and we are force to break up with others or just break it off.
There are better ways to end a relationship. Here are some tips on how to break it up, if you find yourself in a relationship with someone you are not in love with or if a lady shows interest in you, but you need to tell her; hey! I don’t feel the same way you feel.
You have to be kind about it: assumed you are in the same situation. First and foremost, don’t forget there is a person on the other side of this; that you are about to let down. This person has a real feeling and a strong emotion toward you than you do toward them. Remember not to be rude or mean, she already had to deal with the letdown. There is no need to add insult to injury by using harsh words.
Be as straight and honest as possible. Telling her how you truly feel is the best way to break off easily. Don’t make out a fake reason, why you can’t be with her; like telling her you already have a girlfriend, or you are too busy for a relationship unless it’s true. Being lying to her took her down away more than the truth if she does find out on the long run.
Here are some tips on how to break it up, if you find yourself in a relationship with someone you are not in love with or if a lady shows interest in you, but you need to tell her; hey! I don’t feel the same way you feel.
Be mindful of where or when you break up. Just ask if you can speak with her over a coffee or some other low-stress environment, just don’t drop it like a bomb on her, right before let’s say a word presentation, or school exam. There’s a right time and place for everything and telling a girl you are not into her requires some sort of a decent evnironment. Try to make sure you and her alone so that she doesn’t feel embarrassed with other people listening in on the conversation.
Make sure you include her in the conversation, by allowing her speak if she feels that she needs to; she just might have something to say. Don’t just tell her something; like u are not interested and walk away. That will be much more hurtful and can leave her feeling disregarded. Make sure you are there to listen to what she has to say; after you tell her you are not interested, it will help the whole thing end on a better note.
Now depending on the type of girl, there is something quite a bit different. You may likely see a complete melt down, if she is totally emotional mess about the whole thing. But stay firm, don’t crave or tell her you didn’t mean it, just to make her feel better. She will have to work through it and move on with time. On the other hand, if she is the logical person; she will most likely appreciate your honesty, and the respect you have for telling her like an adult. Either way, if you are not into her; the right thing to do is ”do not lead her on”.
