By Jade Seashell (contributor), author of ‘A Seductress’ Confession: How to leverage beauty and savor tantalizing pleasure’
In this day and age, there are many Asian mail order brides that you can find on the Internet. Ordering an Asian bride online is easy now, but how about the reality of being married to an Asian mail order bride? Let’s have a look.
- Usually, an Asian mail order bride is respectful. But if she disrespects you, this is how you should deal with it: don’t complain or become upset; tell her that what she does is disrespectful and you don’t have to put up with it. Some Asian mail order brides may think since you’ve paid a lot of money in order to get her, you would automatically cherish what you’ve paid for and wouldn’t dump her (people want to keep something/someone that they have invested in). But in actuality, that kind of entitlement is very misleading because if you can order a bride online once, you always have the ability to do it again. In other words, you can suggest competition indirectly, and she will change her behavior.
- You may want to monitor her finances. Some Asian mail order brides are sending money to their home countries because they need to support their families. For instance, I know an American guy whose wife is a mail order bride from the Philippines. He didn’t know she was sending money to her family overseas after being married for five years. If your Asian mail order bride depends on you financially, you may want to know how she is managing her finances. If you think it’s okay to support her family financially, then talk about it early on. At least, she should be honest with you.
- Figure out a way to find employment for your Asian mail order bride. Some Asian women who come to Western countries in this way are happy to find jobs after getting married. Honestly, if an Asian woman is very well-educated, she wouldn’t be a mail order bride because she doesn’t need to do this. That means the majority of Asian mail order brides probably can’t speak English. Therefore, it’s hard for them to find jobs in Western countries. However, I know some mail order brides who can’t speak English are working in Western countries (e.g. working as masseurs, etc.). So you may ask your mail order bride to find a job.
Ordering an Asian bride online is easy now, but how about the reality of being married to an Asian mail order bride? Let’s have a look.
- A word about Chinese mail order brides. Many Western men have asked me, “I’d like to have a mail order bride from East Asia only. But I can’t find any of them in Japan or South Korea. How about China?” Well, most Chinese mail order brides are mature women in their 40s or 50s. But they still look very young because of their skin. It seems that among all Asian mail order brides, Chinese women probably have the lightest skin color. If that’s what you prefer, you should definitely try meeting them online.
Real stories of Asian mail order brides (permission has been given; names of people have been changed in this article in order to protect their privacy):
#1. Gary is a 43-year-old guy working in the mining industry in Western Australia. He has two children from his previous marriage. Because Gary’s job is easy to do and the mining industry is very profitable, he has lots of free time every day. Therefore, one day he decided to look at Asian mail order brides’ websites and browsed many profiles. Actually, he liked a woman in Thailand and a woman in China. He couldn’t decide which woman he should choose, so he asked his 14-year-old son which woman is better. The 14-year-old boy told him the Chinese woman looks better, hence Gary contacted the agency, saying he would like to meet the Chinese woman. The international marriage agency organized a trip for Gary to see Anna (the 40-year-old Chinese woman) in Guangzhou, China. Gary fell in love with Anna immediately and they got married one year later. Because Anna couldn’t speak English, the Australian law required her to hire an interpreter at the wedding. After getting married, Gary and Anna talk to each other via Google Translate every day. Now they are still happily married.
#2. Luke is a 51-year-old man who owns a farm in South Australia. He has no children and was never married. Because his way of life doesn’t bring him many women, he decided to find an Asian mail order bride on the Internet. Luckily, he found a 33-year-old woman from Vietnam. As a matter of fact, Luke is very wealthy because of his farm. Although his house is in a remote area, everything is luxurious in his house. The Vietnamese woman didn’t know farmers can be so rich in Australia because in Asia farmers are actually peasants. As a result, Luke’s Vietnamese fiancée was surprised to see how amazing Luke’s lifestyle is. Because this Vietnamese lady married Luke for love rather than money, this makes Luke cherish her even more.
