Most people avoid dating due to the possibility of being trapped on a bad first date. Let’s face it, first dates can be awkward at best. The problem is if you want to be in a relationship you have to take the first step and go on a first date. While there is a high probability it could be a disaster as long as you are equipped with the tools to exit gracefully, the risk can be greatly minimized.
Here are four ways to gracefully get out of a bad date:
#1 Start Small
Set yourself up for success before the date even occurs. When accepting an offer to go out on a date make sure the activity chosen does not come with a lengthy time commitment. Absolutely say no to any full day outings or out of town trips, for obvious reason. Even something like a nice dinner is too much for a first date. If you hit a restaurant on a busy night your meal could last up to four hours. If in fifteen minutes you realize your date is a completely d-bag, you are screwed. Those four hours could feel like a life time. Meeting for a drink is a perfect first date activity it has an end point, the time in which it takes to have a drink. However, you could extend the date if you are enjoying the company. Going for a walk is another good idea. Walking usually has a time frame of about an hour and because you are walking you do not have that awkward feeling of having to look at each other all the time. Coffee date is another popular option for those looking for a short time date. Although coffee is short and sweet, I hate this idea for a first date. It’s cheap and results in bad breath and is quite boring.
Ending up on an awkward first date is always a possibility
but it should not deter you from dating life.
#2 Outsource the Problem
Fortunately technology is changing our lives for the better and is able to solve almost every problem we have, bad dates included. Recently eHaramony created an app to help people rescue bad dates gracefully by allowing users to schedule SOS calls. The scene goes like this, you are on a first and it is going bad, really bad. Fortunately you have prepared and scheduled a fake incoming call from you dating app. The call can be any one of the emergency-worthy options provide by the app. One of the most extreme choices maybe a call from your mom screaming, “Your sister is having a baby!” Another option is a roommate complaining about water leakage. The app is pretty fool proof; your iPhone screen will appear as it would if a regular incoming call was happening and it also has a real voice on the other end. Another option the app provides is a voice on the other end feeding you a script so you do not have to improvise on your feet. This is probably the easiest way to exit a bad date.
#3 Fake an Anxiety Attack
Dates can be extremely nerve-wrecking and some of us do not cope well with the stress. Since this is well known to everyone, it is completely understandable that a person may end up in a complete panic attack whilst on a first date. If you fancy yourself an actor and do not mind getting into character and going the extra mile to fake an anxiety attack, this may be the perfect way to exit a date gracefully. You will need to google anxiety attacks prior to the date and make sure to get down all the classic symptoms. Once the date starts to take a turn for the worst get into character and go for it. Explain to your date that you have to leave because of your anxiety and exit quickly.
#4 Be Honest
If you are a bold person who can’t stand to beat around the bush the best exit from a bad date is to be honest. Explain to your date that you are really focused on getting into a serious relationship and unfortunately you feel no connection or spark with him or her. You can further explain that you do not want to waste anybody’s time and going forward with this date would be just that, a waste of both of your time. While most people will feel completely mortified by the “ be honest” option, it is probably the most practical, economically and sensible way to negotiate a bad date. While it may seem cruel or cold being honest is defiantly the most gracefully way to exit a bad date.
Ending up on an awkward first date is always a possibility but it should not deter you from dating life. As long as you know to exit a bad date gracefully, the rewards of dating much outweigh the risks.