Dating Filipinas: How Young is too Young?

You’ve come to Philippines to find a young Filipina wife or girlfriend! As you look around at all the beautiful women, you realize they look very young.  Filipinas are often petite, beautiful, and mature but hide their age so well they look extremely young.  What is an appropriate age gap?  How do you know if the girl is too young for you? Why is this Philippine woman interested in an older man?

Age is Just a Number

This first thing you must understand is that the majority of Filipinas are not gerontophobes.  Gerontophobia is the fear or hatred of the elderly.  It seems to be epidemic in western cultures that value youth.  Western culture resents age gaps in relationships.

When you date a Philippine woman, age gap is no more important than any other factor.  The things a Filipina look for in a man are stability, ability, personality and intelligence. Age is only important if it affects those characteristics.  Did you notice that being handsome is missing from this list?  All foreign men of all ages are considered handsome by ladies in Philippines. It is one of our many blessings here.

A single lady in Philippines is looking for a man who is financially stable so he can support her and any children.  This means providing food and a roof over their heads.  She wants an emotionally stable man who can handle a relationship without needing mistresses on the side.  Some Filipinas are more motivated by money than others.  Be sure to choose wisely.

It helps if a man has the ability to father a child.  Most Filipinas want one. He should be able to live with her in Philippines or have the capacity to sponsor her if he wants her to come live in his own country. Most Filipinas have nurturing personalities.  This means physical disabilities you may have will be overlooked as your lady will enjoy taking care of you.

The partner to a Filipina needs to have charm, wit and intelligence.  This is assumed because you are smart enough to get to Philippines and charming enough to capture her heart so foreigners start with an advantage here.

What is the Right Age Gap?

When you first look at Internet Dating sites you will see some Filipinas looking for a man aged 29 to 79.  This may seem odd in your culture but is perfectly understandable here.  The lady is saying age does not matter.  She sees a 29 year old as mature.  She also sees a 79 year old, and all ages in between, as equally mature.

Not everyone is that flexible in the range of ages they prefer.  A typical Philippine woman wants a man who has financially established himself, to the point where he does not need to leave and go to work for days at a time.  She will probably want children, but men have the capacity to produce children well into their senior years.  Thus a typical Philippine woman may look for a man aged 40 to 60.

The age of partner you are looking for will vary with your personality and culture.  If you are looking at Philippine women and you want children you are probably looking at a lady aged from 20 to 40.

So let’s examine those age gaps again.  A 20 year old girl, looking for a man aged 40 to 60, may find herself attracted to a man who is 60 and looking for a lady aged 20 to 40.  The result is a 40 year age gap.  On the other hand a 40 year old Filipina, looking for a man aged 40 to 60, may find herself attracted to a man who is 40 and looking for a lady aged 20 to 40.  The result is a Zero age gap. Each result is equally good!  Thus we find the “right age gap” to be a number anywhere between 0 and 40 years difference.  It’s up to you!

Filipinas are often petite, beautiful, and mature but hide their age so well they look extremely young.  What is an appropriate age gap?  How do you know if the girl is too young for you? Why is this Philippine woman interested in an older man?

How Young is too Young?

Yes, a Filipina can be too young to date a foreign man.  With some exceptions, 18 is the age when a girl can legally date a foreign man.  There is some controversy about dating a 17 year old, with parental permission, in a non-physical, chaperoned environment but even that has been challenged under established Philippine law.  Once the lady reaches 18 she may date anyone she wishes. Expect to get some raised eyebrows if you are 58 and your girlfriend is 18 but it is not uncommon in Philippines.  By age 21 very few will be concerned by any age gap between the lady and her partner of choice.

You should also consider whether you plan to live in Philippines or another country.  Philippine culture is very forgiving of age gap. Investigate the laws of your country before bringing a Filipina wife home with you.  Talk to mixed race couples where you live to see what your community finds acceptable.  You will need a social group when you find your perfect match so plan ahead.

What will the Family Think?

The Philippine parents will be proud to have a foreign man marrying into their family.  They will see you as the rich relation and they may hit you up for a loan to buy some pigs or build a sari-sari store.  This is a common cultural tradition that will happen regardless of the age of the Filipina.  You can accept or say no to these requests regardless of the age gap between you and your Filipina spouse. The family will accept whatever age gap exists as normal.

To Sum it Up,

The right age gap is the one where you and your partner are comfortable.  Be sure she is 18 or over.  Check ID if you have any doubts because young Filipina girls will act mature and try to pretend they are older than they are.  Remember a Philippine lady is looking for more than financial support.  She will look up to you for her physical and emotional needs as well as financial support so stay strong and your relationship will thrive, regardless of age gap!

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