A very common complaint that Western men have is they oftentimes get blue balls while dating Chinese women. A typical example is when a Western guy is seeing a Chinese girl, he is so persuasive that she is already naked with him in bed, but she doesn’t want to have sexual intercourse with him (reasons can be she is still a virgin, she is not ready, she thinks it’s wrong to have sex before getting married, and so on). In order to help Western men solve this problem, Pat T., the Operation Manager of a popular Chinese women dating website, has shared his solutions with us.
When a Chinese woman goes to your house with you, do not start to make out with her immediately. If you begin to make out with her the moment she enters your house, that tells her something: You don’t get girls often, so you can’t wait to get close to her. That means you are not a high-value man whom women would like to date. Although the Chinese lady may allow you to kiss her and touch her at this stage, chances are she wouldn’t want to sleep with you in the end. So all your efforts will be in vain. Clearly, a much better approach is to be a gentleman after she has entered your house. Now it’s time to open a bottle of wine and have some romantic music in the background (a good song is Celine Dion’s If Walls Could Talk – You’ll know why it’s a good song in the following paragraph). You two shouldn’t sit close to each other while drinking wine. After you’ve given her a glass of wine, you simply sit far away from her and enjoy your glass of wine (but you are not rude as you still make eye contact with her). Now the woman from China starts to wonder, “Why isn’t he interested in me? Am I attractive enough?” Remember, the goal is to get her to think about you, guess whether you like her or not and chase you.
Remember, the goal is to get her to think about you, guess whether you like her or not and chase you.
Initiate sex outside the bedroom with the Chinese beauty. If you ask the girl from China to go to your bedroom directly, she is much more likely to feel like a slut (slut-shaming is something serious in the Chinese culture). Honestly, it is your job to make sure she doesn’t feel like a slut. As a result, a better way to initiate sex is to begin it when you two are not in the bedroom (yet). For instance, you can use your left hand to grab both of her arms and push her arms as well as her body up against a wall in your sitting room or in the kitchen (many Chinese beauties secretly love being dominated by powerful men). Now the sexy background music is Celine Dion’s If Walls Could Talk and you two are standing so close to the erotic wall! If she doesn’t say no while physically pushing you away at the same time, you know it’s a bright green light. Now it’s time to use your right hand to slowly touch her body. This is a huge turn-on for ladies from China. After a while, when you are more aroused by her arousal, you can take her to your bedroom to finish sexual intercourse.
Get her to beg you for sex. “A Chinese woman’s best lover knows that the ideal way to do it is to make her think it’s her idea to sleep with you,” says Pat, “After you’ve taken her to your bedroom, don’t jump into your bed immediately. Instead, do it slowly. Ideally, the entire foreplay process should last for one hour for beauties from China. You can slowly undress her, keep kissing her and touching her, and then gradually take her to your bed.” In this way, you wouldn’t have blue balls anymore.