So you’ve heard it clichéd to death – ‘There are plenty more fish in the sea.’
Well, for most of our history that sea was more like a pond and that is if you were straight…
But society has changed so much in the past 50 years, homosexuality is treated so differently that in a majority of the entire Americas same sex marriage is legal, Europe is not far behind, lets not get ahead of ourselves there are still plenty of countries where even an accusation of being gay can be a death sentence, but there are people actively seeking long-term same sex relationships around the world even in them countries where it carries the death penalty.
Gay apps have potential love matches within walking distance in any city in the world. We enter a world now, where guys (and girls) are walking around glued to their phones literally like bleeping radars looking for a fling. However within this sea and only now can it be called a sea there are plenty of REAL guys and again girls, of every type, appearance, curiosity, hobby and lust imaginable.
It is possible to meet good people through the internet and successfully too. Nevertheless the laws of first impressions being made in under a second are true so online too, therefore a bad picture, a dodgy intro, a late reply, could be a missed opportunity. Moreover, by not being ‘available’ for people to approach you online how can you expect to keep the statistical chance of meeting a partner high enough to meet the right one.
The rare possibility of being asked out on a date by someone randomly especially if you are gay should be more than enough of a reason to try dating online. Gay-dar isn’t real (or just dodgy at the best of times) so even in this contemporary liberal era we live in we need to rely on a prolonged look, a second look, someone checking you out, even then mistakes can be made. At the very least, gay online dating allows you to see who is available and again allows them to approach you.
Therefore you need to sort out that profile! Like in the real world (it seems the internet is not real still) there are few second chances and with many of these apps when someone skips over you, the algorithm won’t show you to them again. For those looking for a short term hookup that may not be such a problem with so many more people to choose from but in seeking a longer term relationship it is an opportunity missed.
You should not be afraid to put up your real picture. If you don’t, no-one will reply to you for a start. However you should be pretty picky about what you put up and a little effort can increase your views a lot. Dodgy pixilated webcam shots are a no-no, a shot of you DOING something, swimming maybe a bit forward unless you’re a real swimmer but skiing (goggles off) horseriding, on a beach etc. It allows a quick opening line from prospective matches, ‘Oh, I love skiing too…’ Anything to show you aren’t just a couch potato and even if you really don’t have them types of pictures, taking a shot on your phone OUTSIDE, pretty much anywhere, is always going to be better than said crusty webcam shot. Don’t photoshop or turn the saturation to 1000% to fake a tan because he’ll know when he meets you ; )
Best of Luck!