By Jade Seashell (contributor), author of “A Seductress’ Confession: How to leverage beauty and savor tantalizing pleasure”
Hanoi, the capital of Vietnam, is well-known for its centuries-old architecture and a rich culture with Southeast Asian, Chinese and French influences. As the second largest city of Vietnam, Hanoi is a perfect blend of East and West because it was colonized by other countries for many years. A lot of Hanoi women are very Chinese due to the cultural influence from China. However, the differences between Vietnamese women and Chinese women are quite obvious: Chinese women are very typical East Asian and the majority of them have fair skin, whereas Vietnamese beauties are more exotic as they are very well-tanned naturally. Also, Vietnamese women are probably more interested in dating Western men, according to my personal experiences. More than 15 women from Vietnam have consulted with me just to learn how to get Western men. Therefore, it seems that if you are into Southeast Asian women, chances are you’ll be very successful in Hanoi. In order to further help you with your adventure in Hanoi, I’m going to show you some extra tips that you can use to fast-track your success.
- Assume that ladies in Hanoi like you. Your self-belief is your internal compass which is very important for your confidence. I’m not saying you should be an arrogant jerk. I mean assuming you are an attractive western guy will make Hanoi girls like you even more. That’s because when you assume everyone is interested in you, you talk differently, you behave differently; therefore, you’ll eventually have different results. There is a principle which actually applies to attraction:
Be. Do. Have
Let me explain:
If you want to have different experiences, people and things in your life, you must do something different, because your results are brought to you by your actions.
If you want to actually implement your knowledge, skills and techniques, you must have these knowledge, skills and techniques first. In other words, your mindset and your capabilities must be different – you must be a different person in the first place.
Therefore, assuming women in Hanoi like you is a very powerful mindset, because it gives you the mental power to believe in yourself, and further gives you the strength to actually take action. When you assume women in Hanoi like you, you look more confident, relaxed and charismatic. Then the result will become a self-fulfilling prophecy in a good way.
Vietnamese women are interested in dating Western men, therefore, if you are into Southeast Asian women, chances are you’ll be very successful in Hanoi.
- How to handle objections in Hanoi. If you don’t know Hanoi girls well, you’ll come across a range of “objections”. Well, many of these are opportunities that pose as objections. Let’s have a look:
#1. You go out at night (night market) and try to pick up girls at 12 am or 1 am, and you wonder why Vietnamese girls don’t want to speak to you at night. Unlike Western culture, Vietnam has a very different nightlife – In fact, a lot of shops and restaurants don’t close at night – they are open 24/7 in Hanoi. And the night market in Hanoi is full of people even at midnight. However, that doesn’t mean ladies from Hanoi want to speak to strangers at midnight in the street. Usually, Hanoi beauties associate night time with danger subconsciously, although they have a colorful nightlife. So if you approach women at midnight in the street, that’s not a smart move. But it doesn’t mean you can’t do it. In fact, you should do it in a different way. For example, you can ask for directions “Excuse me, which is the way to XYZ restaurant?” When girls in Hanoi see you are a tourist who is just lost, their guard won’t be up. Then you can continue the conversation.
#2. Instead of directly scare Hanoi ladies, you can try indirect approach. For instance, if you are approaching a woman in a busy shopping mall in Hanoi, instead of asking her out immediately, you can ask for her opinion on shopping and fashion: “Excuse me, I’m looking for a present for my brother because his birthday is next week. Could you recommend what I should buy? I’m not as fashion-conscious as you.” This line usually works very well when you approach a Hanoi girl in a shopping mall or a clothing shop. That’s because women in Hanoi want to give their opinions about fashion – that’s a part of contemporary Asian culture: Asian women are gradually becoming the most fashionable ladies on the planet due to a variety of reasons which are beyond this article. Therefore, if you can lead the conversation to this direction, she will have something to say rather than give you a rejection.
#3. She tells you that she has a boyfriend. This is a tricky one. I am not suggesting that you should ruin others’ relationships. I’m only here to help you identify different kinds of girls who tell you about their boyfriends, so that you can learn more about women. In Vietnam, if a woman tells you that she has a boyfriend, there are a few different scenarios:
Scenario A: She uses her boyfriend as an excuse to reject you (maybe she doesn’t really have a boyfriend). In this case, she is just not interested, so you should look for the next girl. If you don’t want to give it up, you can still keep practicing seduction, but hopefully you know when to stop.
Scenario B: She tells you she has a boyfriend, but she still flirts with you. Chances are she doesn’t really care about her relationship. A Vietnamese woman who cares a lot about her relationship wouldn’t do that.