Sexual life, just like sports, pays off if you play by the rules. However, sometimes the rules just aren’t working. Well, now it is time to dump some obsolete dating rules…if you want to win. Play by these new rules and you will score repeatedly.
OLD: Checking women out.
NEW: Women checking men out.
Think your zipper is undone? It is not. Women are just busy looking for what is on offer. If you think that women are not staring at male’s bodies as men do with females, you are very wrong. Using eye-tracking technology, scientists from the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction found that women are actually more likely to have wandering eyes than men are. Women not only spent less time looking at a man’s face (when compared with men looking at women); they also moved more quickly onto his other body parts.
OLD: Online dating.
NEW: Mobile dating.
Online dating made it easy to cast a wide dating net. Trouble is, you would end up hooking plenty of fish you had no appetite for. Mobile dating apps allow you to see who is online and in the vicinity, improving your chances of landing a good catch. It also means every night is “date night.” So the way it used to work—with time to plan what you would wear, where you would take her, and so on—has changed. Be ever ready. Keep a change of clothes at work, along with some deodorizing wipes and mouthwash, because who knows what’s in store.
If you’re in the dating game you need to know that the goalposts have moved. The good news is that it’s to your advantage…if you know how to play by the new rules.
OLD: Talking Dirty.
Talking dirty had one major advantage over sexting—you have to see her response. And even then she has more time to consider her response, giving her more control over the situation. That is why you have to take extra care with the timing and content of your texts. And that includes—ahem—self-portraits. Take the initiative but then let the woman lead the way. Never go beyond the level she is at; otherwise you risk turning her off.
OLD: Dating One Woman at a Time.
Back in the day, there was only one type of steak on every menu: beef. Now you can try venison steak, tuna steak, even tofu steak… And it’s the same with dates. Online and mobile dating have expanded the menu. Now you can see as many women as you can fit into your schedule. Sounds great, right? But read the small print: The same rules apply to women. She may be multi-dating you.