Dating scams are an art form for some Philippine women. Every day there is a Filipina somewhere who is planning to scam a foreign man out of his money. They often brag about it to their friends. Well-designed scams quickly spread through Filipina social groups. Some girls believe that men who are foolish enough to fall for these scams are not good mates. You may think you are helping a girl by sending money, while she thinks a fool and his money are soon parted.
Dating sites are rife with scammers
Online dating scams are commonplace money makers for devious Filipinas. You will find her on a Philippine dating site and she will be online at an Internet café. Sometimes she will have internet on her tablet but that is hard for her, as her husband or boyfriend may catch her if he is around.
She will show you sexy pictures. She will chat with you until you are convinced you are the only man in her life. She will have video sex with you if that is your cup of tea. The thread that ties all of these scammers together is the sob story that entices you to offer money.
These professionals never actually ask for money. They often show ID, (fake but you cannot tell), which gives an address in Zamboanga or some other area that is not safe for foreigners to travel. This is to discourage you from looking for her when you find out it is a scam. It also serves to give her a reason why she cannot find a foreigner, (they are afraid to go where she lives.)
The scammer takes time to get you emotionally invested in the relationship before going into her sad, dramatic role to induce you to a state of empathy and lower your resistance to sending money. How much money? A typical scammer would expect to make about US$500 to $1,000 a month from her victim until such time as the victim comes to visit her or figures it out and stops sending money. The amount may be more, but if you are sending less than $100 a month you will not be worth her time.
Some of the better scammers will actually spend time with their victims, during a two week vacation for example. That enables her to go back to the money sucking routine once the victim is back at work. When you come to actually move in with the girl, the scam becomes clear. You arrive at the airport and she is not there. That is the worst part, the emotional turmoil of realizing you have been scammed.
Well-designed scams quickly spread through Filipina social groups. Some girls believe that men who are foolish enough to fall for these scams are not good mates. You may think you are helping a girl by sending money, while she thinks a fool and his money are soon parted.
Some scammers will live with you
The flipside of the online scammer is the one who lives with you in Philippines and goes out every day to the Internet Café. You may be in love and supporting this Filipina, but at certain times of the day she needs to go ‘check her Facebook’ at the Internet café or at a friend’s house. She will go anywhere that you cannot watch her because she will be meeting one of her online victims.
It is semantics to discuss whether these types of Filipina are scammers or cheaters. The important thing is that she will do what it takes to get as much money from men as she can, while committing as little of her time and energy as she must. With boyfriends on the side it is likely that she will get pregnant at some point. That starts the next part of the scam.
It is always the foreigner’s baby. The scammer may be living with you, she may have just got back from visiting her online victim, and she may be having an affair with the Filipino chauffeur, but if she is pregnant she naturally tells you it is your baby. This is where the acting ability really shines. The true Philippine actress can pop out a little brown baby with brown eyes and Asian features and convince you it is a foreign baby and you are the father.
Love is blind and we often believe these lies. Forewarned is fore-armed so know that these things happen! When you start believing that these things won’t happen to you, they probably already are. Yes, this author has been the victim of more than one of these scams and learned from them. It is my hope that I can help you avoid these problems.
What can you do about it?
Date your chosen Filipina with an open mind. Watch for signs of disloyalty. Do not fully believe what is spoken until you see it backed up with actions. Don’t believe tears and emotional responses. A Philippine woman can turn tears on and off easily. Listen to what friends and relatives are telling you. Your date cannot fool all of the people all of the time so she will try and convince you not to listen to others. She may say she had a falling out with her friends and family and she will hate you if you talk to them. What she means is she is afraid her friends and family will tell you the truth.
Fight back by reporting the scamming Filipina to Dragonladies. This is a site that tracks reports of scams perpetuated by Philippine ladies. If you suspect you are being scammed then take a little time to review that site. You may find that your lady has already been reported. If want a more in depth search into your chosen partner you may want a private company to investigate her. Pointman is a company who will do that for you. If you have any doubts about your lady it is worth investing a little money at the beginning of your relationship. Do it before getting too emotionally attached and thus to avoid being scammed for a lot of money over the years.
Believe your eyes and your intuition. Trust your senses. Learn about current scams and avoid them. Above all, don’t let scammers stop you from searching for a loving Filipina partner.