When sex is right, it’s 33% of a relationship. But when sex is wrong, it’s 80% of the relationship. I had a female client who was in a toxic relationship with an abusive man, but she refused to leave him. When I asked her why again and again, at last she says, “He is really good in bed. I don’t want to lose that.” No wonder Eileen Chang famously said, “The way to a woman’s heart is through her vagina.” Maybe you begin to wonder – What makes a hot woman sexually addicted to you?
You have to make a hot woman feel sexually safe with you.
In the female brain, the area which ignites anxiety and the area which ignites sexual arousal/orgasm can’t be activated at the same time. In other words, when a woman is anxious, she can’t be sexually aroused and can’t have an orgasm. Your hot girlfriend has to feel completely relaxed if you’d like to give her an orgasm. Sadly, at least 30% of all women never have an orgasm. Some can’t have an orgasm because of the slut-shaming culture; some can’t because of their anxiety. Therefore, it is your job to make sure your sexy girlfriend is totally relaxed when she is intimate with you. For instance, you can dim the light, turn on the music (Enya or Secret Garden) and use some lavender home fragrance to help her relax. This should be done before you start foreplay. Remember: a relaxing ambiance is the prerequisite of your gorgeous girlfriend’s sexual satisfaction.
You have to switch off your analytical brain and switch on your emotional brain.
Many men are used to analytical thinking because they are engineers, IT specialists, mathematicians and lawyers. But in dating and relationships, analytical thinking isn’t romantic at all. It’s just such a turn-off. As a result, you would be well-advised to switch off your analytical brain and switch on your emotional brain instead. That means you have to use your right brain rather than your left brain when you are dating an attractive lady. This is particularly important when it comes to meeting a hot woman’s sexual needs in bed. Try to be emotional and creative when you are in the bedroom with your sexy girlfriend. Can you say some poetic lines? Can you use her lipstick to write a poem on her back? Can you fuck her when she is applying makeup near the mirror (makeup sex, literally)? Be creative and spontaneous.
When sex is right, it’s 33% of a relationship. But when sex is wrong, it’s 80% of the relationship.
Talk dirty in bed.
Men are visual creatures, whereas women are aural creatures. You need to understand that talking dirty in bed is very powerful because women are turned on by what they hear. Because most men can’t do this, you will have a huge advantage if you can do it! This should begin slowly: In the first hour of the date, you should talk to your hot girlfriend and listen to her. In the second hour of the date, you should go to bed with her and begin foreplay while talking dirty to her gradually. In the third hour of the date, you have to penetrate her and stimulate all her senses while talking dirty occasionally. In the final hour of the date, you need to calm down and gradually relax with her in bed (meanwhile, you keep talking with her and meet her emotional needs after sex). That’s the structure of a 4-hour date with a sexy woman. If you don’t know what to say, you have to practice more. Another good idea is to watch some romantic movies and notice how those sexy actors talk to hot women in bed/bath (e.g. Sweet November).
Learn erotic massage techniques.
An erotic massage is best characterized by getting close to the hot woman’s skin without actually touching her skin. That means your hands should “half-touch” her skin (maybe only touch her body hair) and move slowly. When you notice she is turned on by your erotic massage, you can begin to touch her skin with some essential oils – some good options are rose, ylang-ylang and sandalwood – these will turn on all her senses. After that, you can begin to stimulate her breasts and vulva.